Monday, August 18, 2014

2008 Book Being Revised Later This Year- Mistakes were made (but not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts

Back on August 7th I posted a 41 minute video presentation from the 2014 TAM Conference given by Dr. Carol Tavris: Who's Lying, Who's Self-Justifying? Origins of the He Said/She Said Gap in Sexual Allegations that I highly recommend if you haven’t watched it. 

Later that day I emailed with Dr. Tavris and in one of her email’s she recommended a book that she co-wrote titled Mistakes were made (but not by ME): Why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts from 2007/2008 that she and the other author are revising at the end of 2014 adding new chapters.

I ordered the 2007/2008 version and began reading it today. 

It opens with two quotes that really struck a chord as a public advocate who has fought myth and hate based legislation for 6 Virginia General Assemblies delivering facts, research and data to our elected officials to still have them willfully ignore the facts, costs and charts that I give to them every year and hear them spout fear, hate, prejudice and sometimes out-and-out lies to push through harsher legislation against Registered Sex Offenders. 

The two quotes are: 

We are all capable of believing things which we know to be untrue, and then, when we are finally proved wrong, impudently twisting the facts so as to show that we were right. Intellectually, it is possible to carry on this process for an indefinite time: the only check on it is that sooner or later a false belief bumps up against solid reality, usually on a battlefield.
                                                                                - George Orwell (1946) 

A great nation is like a great man:
When he makes a mistake, he realizes it.
Having realized it, he admits it.
Having admitted it, he corrects it.
He considers those who point out his faults as his most benevolent teachers.
                                                                                - Lao Tzu 

I think I’m going to enjoy this book with chapters like Knaves, Fools, Villains and Hypocrites: How do they live with themselves and Cognitive Dissonance: The Engine of Self -justification and Good Intentions