Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Is that 20 or 30 Year Old Polaroid of Your Teen-Self, Partially or Fully Nude That's Sitting in an Old Shoe Box Way Up in Your Attic…. Child Pornography????? Yes It Is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I read the below Dear Prudence submission and answer earlier today and at first I thought very little about it. But then I thought…. 

There is no time-frame (pre- 1997) for self-produced photographs of teenagers, by teenagers not to be considered child pornography by either Federal or State Child Pornography laws. 

Just because the mother took the photo of herself or had a friend take it for her long ago perhaps in 1975, 1980, 1988, 1995 or 2000………. the photo is of a nude 14 year old, the photo exists today and her now 14 year old son has seen the image and asked the mother who didn’t confess the photo was of her if perhaps his father is viewing child pornography, today. 

A 10, 20 or 30 year old image that the mother has held onto for sentimental reasons has now opened herself, her husband, the possible taker of the photograph and her son to criminal investigation…..especially since she wrote in to Dear Prudence and she posted the letter. 

Do I want this mother to be investigated for production, distribution or possession of Child Pornography? No. 

But in reality the mother could be! 

And Dear Prudence should have realized that before she published this mother’s careless behavior. Yes I said careless! Nothing in your home is off limits to snooping children, if you don’t have it under lock and key you should expect it to be discovered. 

Telling readers to carefully hide their underage “naughty photos” might make for humorous reading but it’s actually setting people up to fail. 

Hey folks, if you are holding on to any nude photographs of yourself from when you were younger than 18 years old, get rid of them before your kids find them and possibly take them to school for show-and-tell or load them onto Instagram!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Could the authorities consider that destruction of evidence? Yes they could…… but the fact is a 20-30 year old Polaroid that was taken with full knowledge and participation of the person in the photo who is now an adult shouldn’t be considered a crime today, but it could be! 

We don't need more innocent people on America's Sex Offender Registries. 

Mary Devoy

Dear Prudence: My son found nude photos of me as a teenager, April 28, 2015

Q. The Naked Truth: My 14-year-old son recently came across some Polaroid pictures of me that his father took of me back when we were 14—we have been together for a long time and got married when I was pregnant with my son. The pictures were in an old shoebox filled with baseball cards and other adolescent memories. The problem is that the pictures are nude shots! You can’t really tell that the pictures are of me, as my appearance has changed pretty dramatically since I was 14—hair color change, weight difference, boobs, etc. My son came to me really worried with the concern that his father was potentially hoarding teenage porn. I didn’t directly tell him that the pictures were of me, but assured him that his father didn’t look at or keep teenage porn and that I would speak to him about it. But should I be more direct? Which is worse, thinking your father has kiddie porn or knowing that you just saw a 14-year-old version of your mother naked? 

A: Oh, the good old memorabilia box—it’s launched a million reassessments of one’s parents as sexual beings. You are between a rock and a hard place here. Your choices are to have your son think his father is a criminal pervert, or realize just how hot Mom was when she was 14 years old just like him! Arghhhh. (I will put aside the fact that today if two 14-year-olds—and my, you two were precocious—took dirty pictures of each other, they both could end up on a lifetime sex offender’s list.) Since your son is worried about child pornography, I think you have to tell him the truth. Get a photo of yourself, clothed, at age 14. Put it next to the dirty picture, and put a Post-it note over your nude body, just keeping your head exposed. Then show both to your son and explain he has discovered some ancient history about his mom and dad, and there’s nothing for him to worry about. Make sure all the naughty photos are put somewhere safe and inaccessible—and I don’t mean the underwear drawer.