Saturday, October 24, 2015

2 Action Items: #1- The VSP and VA-DOC Probation Aren’t Communicating AND They’re Clerical Errors Could Lead to Issues for Virginia’s RSO's. #2- VSP Compliance Officers/Troopers are Giving False and Dangerous Information to Virginia’s RSO's.

I received 2 separate emails back in September from RSO’s almost immediately following my meeting with the Virginia State Police. 

I then shared the content in the two emails with the VSP asking for them not only to address the issues but to support legislation in 2016 to fix one of the known problems, they never responded. 

So then I shared the content with the Virginia Legislators who are running for re-election in November because they MUST be addressed. 

Now, I’m sharing these two issues with all of you and I’m asking that your take action! 

Kasey Farris: Please Don't Threaten My Son For Dating Your Daughter

I came across this on who picked it up after Huffington Post. 

Now, this has NOTHING to do with Sex Offenders BUT it does have to do with Double-Standards (Male v. Female), Teenagers Being Interested in Sex is Natural NOT Deviant, Consent as a Teen and Taking Accountability for Your Actions and Decisions all issues I have posted about in the past and that have lead to new sex laws that are overly broad, vague and questionably unconstitutional (Yes Means Yes)……..ALL while lowering the burden of proof and raising the penalties creating more Registered Sex Offenders. 


Please Don't Threaten My Son For Dating Your Daughter, October 22, 2015
By Kasey Farris

There's a story in the news this week about how a well-meaning father took pictures with his arms around his daughter's Homecoming date; mimicking the couple's pose. A comment was later added, and the picture posted on social media. "Whatever you do to my daughter, I will do to you." The original article came out on a Fox News affiliate in Orlando, and was dubbed "hilarious".  

Now. The full story is that both families were at the photo shoot and it was intended to be a joke, okay'ed by everyone involved. Therein, I'm not trying to judge this particular story, more use it as an example of the old-fashioned norms in which we continue to mindlessly participate.  

While the role of overprotective father is not a new one, it is a tired concept that needs to just die, already. Aside from the assumption that my daughter (yes, I also have daughters) is incapable of good judgement and protecting herself and her standards, this ridiculous concept imagines my sons likewise incapable of the same good judgement and standards.  

"But I've been/known a teenage boy," You say. "I know how they think." 

Which is total baloney. Because here's the thing -- thoughts are not equal to actions. And rationalizing that young men have overwhelming urges that cloud their judgement and force them to make poor decisions regarding young women is nothing more than excusing bad behavior. "Boys will be boys" needs to STOP.  

My oldest son is 16 and his life does not need to be threatened when he takes his date out for dinner. My son is 16 and yet he has enough sense to be respectful to his grandmother, his mother, his sisters, and, amazingly, his girlfriend. I, as his mother, take offense to the thought that he is some hormone-drunk sloppy boner-machine (man he's going to hate me for writing that phrase in a public forum) who is completely blinded to good sense and morality. I have raised my son to be respectful and responsible young man, and he portrays those qualities in outside situations, as well.  

It's not "funny" to threaten my son. It's not "cute" to treat your daughter as if she has zero common sense.